Sex has been called the original
sin. It is neither original nor sin.
Sex
is such a fundamental activity in nature that the ego of man started trying to
get rid of it. The first thing I would like you to remember: sex is natural.
There is no need to make any effort to get rid of it…although I know a moment
comes when you transcend it that is something totally different. It is not by
your effort that you can get rid of it; if you try to get rid of it you will
fall a victim of perversions. Because for centuries man has been trying to get
rid of sex, he has created many kinds of perversions. Homosexuality has arisen
because we have deprived people of heterosexuality.
Homosexuality is quite normal in
Humans
Homosexuality
was born as a religious phenomenon in the monasteries because we forced monks
to live together in one place and nuns to live in one place, and we separated
them by great walls. Homosexuality is bound to happen. It happens only in
monasteries and in the army, because these are the two places where we don’t
allow men and women to mix. Or it happens in boys’ and girls’ hostels; there
also we don’t allow them to mix. The whole phenomenon of homosexuality is a
by-product of this whole stupid upbringing. Homosexuality will disappear from
the world the day we allow men and women to meet naturally.
From
their very childhood we start separating them. If a boy is playing with girls
we condemn him. We say, “What are you doing? Are you a sissy? You are a boy,
you are a man! Be a man, don’t play with girls!” If a boy is playing with dolls
we immediately condemn him: “This is for girls.” If a girl is trying to climb a
tree we stop her immediately: “This is not right; this is against feminine
grace.” If a girl tries and persists and is rebellious she is called a tomboy;
she is not respected.
It is perfectly OKAY to be
Homosexual
Sex
should be taken very naturally — we have been taking it very seriously. If you
take it non-seriously, then there is no need to be worried even if you are
attracted to women. Don’t be worried, because your worry is not going to help.
It’s perfectly okay. Yes, once in a while you may love a woman or a man.
Nothing is wrong in it, because inside you both are there.
Each
man is both a man and a woman, and each woman is both a woman and a man,
because you are born out of the meeting of one man and one woman. So half of ‘you’
comes from your father and half of ‘you’ comes from your mother; part of you is
man and part of you is woman.
Do not be worried just because you
are attracted towards the Same Gender
So,
there is nothing much to be worried about. It may be that your man part is
attracted towards other women, but because biologically you are a woman you
feel afraid. No need to be afraid! Take things easily that is my basic
approach. Take it easy. And by taking things easy one can go beyond them more
comfortably, conveniently, quickly, than by taking things seriously. If you
take them seriously you become entangled with them, you become burdened with
them. And this is not such a big problem. There are bigger problems.
You
are attracted to women: perfectly good. Go deep into relationship with women.
If you make an anxiety out of it you will not be able to go deep in
relationship with a woman. If you go deep in relationship with women, my
understanding is that sooner or later you will find that this relationship
cannot be very fulfilling, because two women are alike. And a relationship
needs a certain tension to be fulfilling, a certain polarity to be fulfilling.
Two women in love, or two men in
love, will have a good relationship, but it will not be very spicy.
It
will be a little dull, monotonous, a little boring. But if you go deeply, only
then will you become aware of these things. Your anxiety will not allow you to
go deep, and then your whole life you will remain interested and attracted
towards women. My approach about all problems is that if anything is there, go
deeply into it, so either you find the treasure, if it has any treasure, or you
find that it is empty. In both cases you are enriched. If you find the
treasure, of course you are enriched. If you find it is empty, you are finished
with it.
Go
as deeply as possible in your relationships with women — don’t be worried. Soon
you will see that there is a different kind of relationship that can exist only
between polar opposites. Then go into a deep relationship with a man, because
only by going deep in relationship with a man will you be able to know that all
relationships fall short. Even the man/woman relationship falls short; it never
brings you the contentment it promises.
Only
through your own experience — not by what Buddha says, not by what I say…only
through your own experience will you one day be able to go beyond all
relationships. Then you can be happy alone. And the person who can be happy
alone is really an individual. If your
happiness depends on the other, you are a slave; you are not yet free, you are
in bondage.
Being alone leads you to
Meditativeness
When
you are happy alone, when you can live with yourself, there is no intrinsic
necessity to be in relationship. That does not mean that you will not relate.
But to relate is one thing, and to be in relationship is quite another.
Relationship is a kind of bondage, relating is sharing. You will relate with
many people, you will share your joy with many people, but you will not depend
on anyone in particular and you will not allow anybody else to depend on you. Then
you live out of freedom, out of joy, out of love. Then that will lead you into
meditativeness, into solitude, into that beauty, that benediction, which
happens only when you are alone.
