Hardest achievements
I believe one of the hardest achievements to conquer in life is learning to accept people for who they are. We all have expectations for people: our
parents, friends, lovers, etc. We demand a certain kind of performance
from them, and it must associate with the picture in our mind;
otherwise, it falls short. We expect, without question, for them to follow our unwritten rules and play by the book of our beliefs.
Others' beliefs don’t align with yours
When someone doesn’t react the way you
want him or her to, it’s not because of you. Rather, it’s because said
person’s beliefs don’t align with yours. An individual’s beliefs and
standards cultivate who he or she is. Everything a person does stems from those
two elements of his or her being. People are always operating from
their own subconscious agenda, whether it’s good or bad.
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People are humans
It never works out the way you think it will. People are humans. They don’t have to live according to my expectations, or live by your beliefs. They have their own set of rules, and
none of them are any of your business. They don’t need to justify their
standards of living, as long as they aren’t hurting other people. But what if they are hurting other people?
It’s your prerogative to decide
whether or not you can live with that. It’s your entitlement in life to
figure out for yourself whether or not you can stand by their choices
that may or may not directly affect you. It’s your duty to realize if
the gap between your beliefs and another person’s beliefs is too wide to
bridge. You have to innately know whether to build or burn that bridge. No one else can decide for you.
Time will help you come to a conclusion
as long as you keep living. As long as you keep breathing in and out, as
long as your feet are moving, as long as you find a reason to laugh
every day, and as long as you build and maintain your core — the
foundation comprised of your beliefs and standards. As long as that
foundation is strong, the actions of another person can’t shake you.
You will be stronger than before, more
capable and confident in whom you are. You will realize that who you are
has nothing to do with the actions of another, and that acceptance is
the only way to find peace.
